tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post5008649033236469778..comments2024-03-09T11:08:34.910+02:00Comments on other things amanzi: significant momentsBongihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-35881478888910201502010-04-28T05:33:23.363+02:002010-04-28T05:33:23.363+02:00Wow, what an unbelievable post -- i can only imagi...Wow, what an unbelievable post -- i can only imagine what you went through. Thank you for sharing this.Jill of All Trades, MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179698354368331522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-29760531233282953612010-04-25T22:54:44.194+02:002010-04-25T22:54:44.194+02:00Hey Bongi, I always pictured you as black, not tha...Hey Bongi, I always pictured you as black, not that this matters, just that I needed an imaginary face/body to go with the stories. Can you tell us a bit more about yourself? Like how old are you? How tall are you? What actor do you look like?Annienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-57550532967536939762010-04-24T15:40:47.106+02:002010-04-24T15:40:47.106+02:00Such a painful story- I'm glad you were able t...Such a painful story- I'm glad you were able to share it. Thank you.<br /><br />I've never been able to interact with children as patients- it is such an odd situation. Children should be happy, children should be full of energy, children should never have to be in pain. They should never look at me with fear in their eyes.<br /><br />It doesn't always happen that way, and that's why I admire pediatric physicians more than anybody else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-72342473432433511772010-04-23T00:00:30.016+02:002010-04-23T00:00:30.016+02:00Most of us choose our own torments, or maybe they ...Most of us choose our own torments, or maybe they choose us in a way we can't refuse.<br /><br />I see some doctors who seem to choose specialties that allow them to keep a distance between themselves and their patients and the patients' families. I neither envy them nor think of them as selfish in some way.<br /><br />My personal approach is to try to stay human, to try to immerse myself in the sorrow, not to "feel their sorrow", you can only feel your own, but it's our own demon we must face sooner or later, and it won't help to ignore or run away from it.Greg Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18422487877167541900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-71718316179156650662010-04-22T23:12:45.534+02:002010-04-22T23:12:45.534+02:00I see.I see.Chrysalis https://www.blogger.com/profile/00757696627388704079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-30647862022879613842010-04-22T22:16:25.137+02:002010-04-22T22:16:25.137+02:00"Aeschylus held that there was suffering so g..."Aeschylus held that there was suffering so great that, even in our sleep, it dripped upon the heart until "in our own despair, against our will" comes a terrible wisdom."<br />From an article about the terrible death of a little girl.<br />Maybe that wisdom is all we have sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-11311962745226745582010-04-22T22:16:23.913+02:002010-04-22T22:16:23.913+02:00angel, of course i don't mind you commenting h...angel, of course i don't mind you commenting here. you are always welcome to comment. in fact, thank you for your comments.<br /><br />having said that i must disagree with some of the things you said. the girl in question never got a chance to understand. she was in a strange scary place with all sorts of horrible things happening. then she went to theater and then she was dead. there was no discussion and there was no resolution. and the death was final.<br /><br />also i think these things need to stay with me. every time i treat a child i need to step back and ignore their screams so that i can do my job. if i don't allow stories like this to stay with me to keep the balance i will truly lose the humanity of it.Bongihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-78052905971600054022010-04-22T13:29:43.959+02:002010-04-22T13:29:43.959+02:00I know I rarely comment here, but I read. I hope y...I know I rarely comment here, but I read. I hope you don't mind my commenting now.<br /><br />My heart went out to you, and the girl. <br /><br />While what you do sometimes causes pain, you also intercede to prolong life. Those of us that need your help, are given a second chance, sometimes. You give us a chance to feel whole again. Changed, but whole. You give us the chance to hold our loved ones again. We are given the time to tell them we love them. You give us the chance to feel the sun on our face, and the warmth on our skin. You give us hope for a few more tomorrows, maybe years....maybe a cure.<br /><br />Don't let that moment with the child stay with you. You know, children are very smart, and while your drawing the blood hurt her at the time, later she understood you were trying to help her. Children know and understand more than we give them credit for. I'm sure it was discussed after the fact.<br /><br />It's an awful thing when the children suffer. I agree, children should be free to play and enjoy the life they were given, not have to suffer illness, pain, and death.Chrysalis https://www.blogger.com/profile/00757696627388704079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-19528725597889034272010-04-22T10:21:49.368+02:002010-04-22T10:21:49.368+02:00Thank-you for trying, for not giving up and for ca...Thank-you for trying, for not giving up and for caring.The Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02368935358031860432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-12880387912483482892010-04-21T22:19:21.925+02:002010-04-21T22:19:21.925+02:00you did help her, so much better to die on a sufen...you did help her, so much better to die on a sufenta/morphine infusion than to slowly suffocate as would have been her lot. she is in a much better place xxVIVA TIVAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05293757293448489047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-59062991723005958222010-04-21T21:13:18.087+02:002010-04-21T21:13:18.087+02:00You did not give her a better life, but you helped...You did not give her a better life, but you helped give her a chance at one.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your story.geenahttp://www.codeblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-91000269218933094522010-04-21T21:07:58.289+02:002010-04-21T21:07:58.289+02:00This post really affected me.
It made me think o...This post really affected me. <br /><br />It made me think of all those ghosts that haunt my heart as well. The times that work has made me cry or made me question why I do what I do. <br /><br />Thank you for writing this.<br /><br />I do find that writing about these events sometimes sets those ghosts free. Do you find that?Albinoblackbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15222730484450544498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-49854074383484057962010-04-21T21:02:39.859+02:002010-04-21T21:02:39.859+02:00Beautiful post Bongi. Thank you for sharing it.
...Beautiful post Bongi. Thank you for sharing it.<br /><br />It is a profound memory ..one you would prefer not to have had, but perhaps you were exactly the person to do it. Perhaps someone else may not have been as compassionate. Your heart went out to her the moment you 1st saw her.<br /><br />I love your writing Bongi. I haven't been out in the blogosphere commenting like I was ..but I have been reading. You also have a gift for writing and bringing your readers into the experience.SeaSprayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07906503090688697222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-76101263300666650652010-04-21T15:54:25.093+02:002010-04-21T15:54:25.093+02:00beautifully haunting post, bongi. sorry for that ...beautifully haunting post, bongi. sorry for that patient and her family...sorry for you. i trained where we had a pediatric trauma center attached to the adult trauma center, and my time there, although difficult, made me appreciate how lucky we are when we have healthy children, giggling and carrying -on around us.<br /><br />thanks for sharing.<br />jimStorytellERdochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371229500424449124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-79098950340360010692010-04-21T14:24:01.064+02:002010-04-21T14:24:01.064+02:00We don't always achieve our goal of improving ...We don't always achieve our goal of improving the person's life we touch. Crying along with you this morning.rlbateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15236331355857884458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-69600650079433830032010-04-21T14:19:42.319+02:002010-04-21T14:19:42.319+02:00Difficult post, but thank you for sharing it. It w...Difficult post, but thank you for sharing it. It will stay with me too.Jabulanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12847825459654555235noreply@blogger.com