tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post764401421703215042..comments2024-03-09T11:08:34.910+02:00Comments on other things amanzi: pointlessBongihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-72693595792436783792013-04-20T16:48:42.851+02:002013-04-20T16:48:42.851+02:00Speechless. And my heart is sore.Speechless. And my heart is sore.Jabulanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12847825459654555235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-41550071786528683592008-08-02T22:52:00.000+02:002008-08-02T22:52:00.000+02:00Maybe he was a stepping stone in your life to teac...Maybe he was a stepping stone in your life to teach you to look into what you can give at that time and look beyond the now to what is practical and/or possible. <BR/><BR/>With injuries like that what sort of life would he have lead without being a creature of internal pain and external stares.<BR/><BR/>Was his mother to blame yes but it sounds like she was mentally unstable herself and abused by life. <BR/>Where was anyone to reach out to sort the problem they must have seen was happening if they did not or did not care that also speaks volumes. <BR/><BR/>What shocked me was that basic trachi care is not taught in the human hospitals. <BR/>That should be one of the lessons it is not the big things in life that kills like loosing so much of your body but the simple things like a gob of dried spit and gunk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-44713686404109541732008-07-20T21:09:00.000+02:002008-07-20T21:09:00.000+02:00sad story... much respect for your work and feelin...sad story... much respect for your work and feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-14640612021969571002008-07-17T18:55:00.000+02:002008-07-17T18:55:00.000+02:00I am at a loss to understand why we have not come ...I am at a loss to understand why we have not come to peace with death ... and why we think that "saving" this lovely child was the best medicine. Sometimes death .. with dignity and in someones loving arms, is the best option, and sometimes ... the best medicine of choice. <BR/><BR/>You dear man have my heart as you are doing the work of the gods. ~DenaDenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02780570557755717945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-60284962146210183852008-07-13T16:38:00.000+02:002008-07-13T16:38:00.000+02:00Please go and read new blog about sa doctors..if y...Please go and read new blog about sa doctors..<BR/>if you want to, we can exchange links..<BR/><BR/>http://www.eishmadiskakhi.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-72926522809717622952008-07-08T05:17:00.000+02:002008-07-08T05:17:00.000+02:00I am so glad you found me, as now I have found you...I am so glad you found me, as now I have found you. :) I have done a number of medical missions, and have been trying to figure out how to do more. I just got back from the Dominican Republic, where the health care system is terrible, and there is so much to do. <BR/>There are so many patients that one has like little k. And you always wonder "what if?..." The only consolation that I can offer is that 1. for the time that he knew you, his life was infinitely better than it was without you, and 2. no, you cannot save everyone. <BR/><BR/>To him, it was not pointless.DrBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957078718446547740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-65731593889396320852008-07-04T06:59:00.000+02:002008-07-04T06:59:00.000+02:00This was, like your many other blog posts just inc...This was, like your many other blog posts just incredible/amazing/etc. I enjoyed staying up late and going through your entire blog and reading some incredible revealing stories. Really big eye opener and it thought me a lot about the life that an individual such as yourself has to go through in a country so far away fro me. All the best with the work in the hospitals and I hope things turn for the better.<BR/><BR/>As for this blog post specifically: Yes, it might sometime seem futile when there is a sea of starfishes washed up on the shore.... But never give up and for every starfish you throw back in the water, it will make a difference to a life.<BR/><BR/>Kind regards.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-2227926823017367852008-07-04T01:46:00.000+02:002008-07-04T01:46:00.000+02:00jamie, that is quite a compliment. thank you. go f...jamie, that is quite a compliment. thank you. go for it.Bongihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-42011552357383724902008-07-03T20:40:00.000+02:002008-07-03T20:40:00.000+02:00the thought of the substance (could it be concentr...the thought of the substance (could it be concentrated bleach?) burning down K's throat is already so painful for us to bear.. i wonder how was his 'not rightful' mother's reaction to the sight of her own son going through that episode.. its crazy! <BR/><BR/>anyway, at least u did give him hope although it was not too long a period of time. <BR/>i stumbled upon ur blog sometime back and have been a silent reader. i have to say that reading ur posts like this have kept me on track and even more motivated to be a doctor. someday, i wanna be like you. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-17543135787083087712008-07-02T18:39:00.000+02:002008-07-02T18:39:00.000+02:00If you have not adopted, or been interested in ado...If you have not adopted, or been interested in adopting and suddenly have an opportunity thrust upon you it is very hard to make a decision; particularly if you are not already set up to care for a child. If you ever are in the situation again, with a very hurt orphaned child, here are some options to consider. <BR/><BR/>You know since international adoption opened up (for USA anyway) in places like Ethiopia and Liberia many children, victims of caustic ingestion, have been adopted and are apparently, with a lot of surgery and therapy, living happily ever after- several families have blogs. <BR/><BR/>It is a shame they can't arrange for these children to be adopted because there are families who would be glad to take them and work with their conditions. <BR/><BR/>I don't know if international adoption is available from South Africa but if it can be done these places are very successful in placements of hurt children, HIV, TB, Downs Syndrome, Caustic Ingestion and other difficult medical conditions http://www.acresofhope.org/ or http://www.reecesrainbow.com/<BR/><BR/>here are some of the blogs<BR/>http://www.helpmercyandjoy.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://libertytograce.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://chickensndiapers.blogspot.com<BR/>http://libertytograce.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://cornishadoptionjourney.blogspot.com/2008/03/denis-has-family.html<BR/>http://specialneedsbaby.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://www.cornishadoptionjourney.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://urbansworld.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://ukieadoptmom.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://spahrfamilybigtop.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://andrewscrew.blogspot.com/<BR/>http://fromthetrenchesofadoption.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-30292047589522555992008-07-02T15:56:00.000+02:002008-07-02T15:56:00.000+02:00Tragic and awful.Tragic and awful.Jeffrey Parks MD FACShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15650563299849196122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-42442332035720867372008-07-01T17:27:00.000+02:002008-07-01T17:27:00.000+02:00The woman should have been sterilized. Anyone who...The woman should have been sterilized. Anyone who could do this to a tiny, defenseless child should be rendered incapable of ever producing another.beachbirdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15930167451189674363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-42571126091193451082008-07-01T08:37:00.000+02:002008-07-01T08:37:00.000+02:00kathy g, to be honest i find you excusing the moth...kathy g, to be honest i find you excusing the mother in any way quite disturbing. there are a few things i know. firstly, k is dead and his mother remains alive. then there is the matter of k not being able to swallow even his saliva for the last about two years of his life. his mother could swallow at this time and still can as far as i know. then there is the matter of breathing through his neck, which, once again his mother doesn't do. then there are questions of being able to defend yourself at the age of one against someone that is supposed to protect you but is trying to kill you. the mother had a greater chance of surviving the encounter.<BR/><BR/>sorry, but my sympathies do not lie with the "poor mother who in an act of selfless desperation" decided to simply kill her child.<BR/><BR/>ok, blame the government if you must, but she could have dumped him at numerous places where he would have found his way into a state sponsored system. she did not do this. she mutilated her child in a botched murder attempt. sounds like a fine upstanding misunderstood law abiding citizen to me....not!Bongihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-66010168885758667622008-07-01T05:51:00.000+02:002008-07-01T05:51:00.000+02:00It is a sad story, but it is also unfortunate that...It is a sad story, but it is also unfortunate that the government cannot take steps to prevent this from happening in the first place...I suppose this was an act of desperation as the mother could not take care of both children.Kathy Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18371364292471774391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-9211398152672487722008-06-30T19:44:00.000+02:002008-06-30T19:44:00.000+02:00greg, you know the story of the starfish? i like t...greg, you know the story of the starfish? i like to believe it.Bongihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12918640034313468627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-45739987973072667372008-06-30T15:35:00.000+02:002008-06-30T15:35:00.000+02:00I think about all the k's in the world when I see ...I think about all the k's in the world when I see people fervently focusing on saving whales or preventing abortions in developed countries.<BR/><BR/>The problem is it's all so overwhelming, the numbers out there. To simply give food, save a life temporarily, doesn't really assess the magnitude of the problem, but somehow we have to find those moments when we can actually do something constructive, maybe at least temporarily relieve someone's suffering.Greg Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18422487877167541900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-33315302605167061662008-06-30T04:08:00.000+02:002008-06-30T04:08:00.000+02:00Wow. Such powerful tragedy. Hard to find words, is...Wow. Such powerful tragedy. Hard to find words, isn't it. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-90647267605434287122008-06-27T01:06:00.000+02:002008-06-27T01:06:00.000+02:00I once had a very sad child named Kyrie in my kind...I once had a very sad child named Kyrie in my kindergarten class, big eyes, dirty clothes. Mom had dirty bare feet and scabs from meth scratching. As happens so often, Kyrie disappeared, yanked by the state. I had a very dedicated aide who happened to be a registered foster parent, and she tracked down Kyrie and her sister in a hellish foster home and managed to get both girls removed to her own home. Kyrie spent several happy years there, and the aide eventually found her extended family that had lost track of her and her crackhead Mom.<BR/> We celebrated my foster son's 19th birthday yesterday, and I would encourage everybody to consider taking in a needy child--they enrich our lives. And Dr. Bongi, pleasd don't torture yourself, you helped k greatly.Devorrahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14542045173559671539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-29779662113800663492008-06-26T07:35:00.000+02:002008-06-26T07:35:00.000+02:00This makes me to sad and angry to comment really.I...This makes me to sad and angry to comment really.<BR/><BR/>I just wanna say I think you certainly managed to convey your feelings for k.Øysteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17639945934219989040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-73976271388255788392008-06-26T07:01:00.000+02:002008-06-26T07:01:00.000+02:00You were the light of his short life. That is big,...You were the light of his short life. <BR/>That is big, bongi!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-59063748872869490222008-06-26T06:35:00.000+02:002008-06-26T06:35:00.000+02:00That is so sad. It is such a terrible world we liv...That is so sad. It is such a terrible world we live in sometimes.Dragonflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12759938692575603663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-54718159863374032892008-06-26T05:42:00.000+02:002008-06-26T05:42:00.000+02:00"and was therefore released to look after her baby..."and was therefore released to look after her baby."<BR/><BR/>What?! The baby should be a ward of the state until/if she's ever deemed competent to mother again. It shouldn't change her sentence one whit. Unless the time sentenced was so woefully inadequate that the judge said "screw it, she only has x months left anyway." Either way, that's seriously f*cked up.<BR/><BR/>The fact that she bred again is just a whole 'nother level of sadness, particularly for the innocent child not having the faintest clue what its in for.Enricohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02399315049167574103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-85337583938360934652008-06-26T02:58:00.000+02:002008-06-26T02:58:00.000+02:00what a sad storywhat a sad storyLoraLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11294436393584054853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-17679211914799183832008-06-25T20:30:00.000+02:002008-06-25T20:30:00.000+02:00This truly is one of the saddest, most horrible st...This truly is one of the saddest, most horrible stories I have ever heard. Sometimes the cruelty that exists in this world is too much to conceptualise.amanzimtotihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00547897825508141342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37286253.post-41092800483469569582008-06-25T19:29:00.000+02:002008-06-25T19:29:00.000+02:00Similar incidents happen in the Philippines, Bongi...Similar incidents happen in the Philippines, Bongi. It is negligence which kills the poor little fellows. And like you, I have colleagues who have grown cynical about the whole thing.<BR/><BR/>It's a cruel world. Life is so unfair. It is so easy to make conclusions to appease our own sadness. But nothing justifies early and unwanted deaths.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your experience.Dr. Emerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407128557937763280noreply@blogger.com